Conflict
Whining is a pitch problem before it is a behaviour problem
The sound is aversive by design. That is what it is for.
July 14, 2026 · 5 min read
"Why did you do that?" is the question children cannot answer
The most common question adults ask after misbehaviour is one that requires a skill most children have not developed yet.
July 2, 2026 · 6 min read
A forced apology teaches the script, not the repair
"Say sorry" produces the word reliably and the understanding almost never.
May 28, 2026 · 5 min read
Siblings are not arguing about fairness
The tally is real to them, but it is rarely the thing that started it.
April 16, 2026 · 5 min read
Nothing you say during a meltdown is being processed
Reasoning mid-tantrum is not merely ineffective. It extends the episode.
June 12, 2025 · 5 min read
The first lies are a developmental milestone, awkwardly
A child who can lie has just worked out that you cannot see inside their head.
March 14, 2024 · 5 min read